What is love bombing? For some adults with ADHD, it looks like this: We meet someone new, fall madly in love, and sweep them away with our obsessive attention, then lose interest when the thrill fades. This cycle is not present in most relationships touched by ADHD, but it does impact a population of ADDitude readers, some of whom share their stories here.
"Assigning blame. Exerting control. Arguing. Giving up. All my life, this unhealthy pattern has scarred my relationships but it has never, ever worked to change my attention deficit disorder behaviors. Because it simply can’t. Because disapproval is not a cure for #ADHD." This is a must-read.
“I learned the hard way that my emotional state almost always affects the situation at hand. When I think back to life’s most unpleasant experiences – the runaway feelings, emotions, body sensations, and all – I realize that the trigger event is never as unpleasant as the thoughts that carry me away.”
Many of us have been deeply hurt, and as a result, we pull away from people in our lives. But connection is powerful, and we don't deserve to miss out. Read these 13 ideas for bringing more connection into your life. As @DrHallowell says, "Take heart. Hearts heal."
“I suffer from an irresistible desire to jump in and finish people’s sentences, particularly when my anxiety spikes are coupled with a strong compulsion to be liked. It turns out I wasn’t really engaging with people at all those cocktail parties; I just spent decades holding an audience hostage until my glass was empty.”
Interpersonal relationships define and fulfill us. But for those of us with ADHD, our symptoms can negatively impact our friends and spouses. While we know how ADHD can affect our ability to focus, remember, and get things done, we rarely talk about ADHD’s impact on our ability to create and maintain connections –– and that needs to change.